A friend recently ‘confessed’ to me that she had a sleep routine for her daughter. She quickly said that she still breastfeeds on demand - she just has set times for her daughter’s naps and sleeps. And she said the difference in her life was amazing - she felt her daughter was happier and my friend now feels more confident as a mama. And I couldn’t be happier for them 💜💜
I am not against routines at all, but I am against leaving babies alone to scream themselves to sleep, and not feeding them when they are hungry. I acknowledge lots of people have routines without these elements.
Until my son started school, we had no routines at all.
And despite concerns from some friends and family, he has adjusted quickly and brilliantly.
Some families find lots of benefits in having firm routines. By not having routines, I have found that my kids are adaptable, flexible and easygoing. We are almost always ready for an adventure. They sleep when they’re tired and they eat when they’re hungry.
If routines have saved your sanity then I love that ❤️❤️ they aren’t necessary for everyone, and some of us love our spontaneous lives ❤️❤️❤️ ...
Once your breastfed baby has started solids, do you think you need a routine to cover breastfeeds and solid feeds?
My ‘routine’ has always been: - offer food when they show signs they want some food. Or when they are bored or cranky, or if I’m eating something especially delicious that they might appreciate. Or if the rest of the family are sitting down to a meal - offer boob when they show signs they want some boob, or if I think it will help them get past tiredness/upset/other big feelings. Or if my boobs feel a bit full and they need to be drained
Some parents have a solid bed time routine that gets their kids to bed always at the same time, well before anyone gets overtired, and their children are comforted by the predictability of their lives.
And some parents take their kids skateboarding at the beach at night 😂😂 ...