Over the last week I have been weaning my 2.5 yr old off night feeds and it has been the most loving, beautiful experience.
I was really worried that it would be filled with screaming, tears and tantrums, but she has done such an amazing job at accepting and allowing the process to unfold.
I am patting myself on the back for being the parent that I am that has also played a role in this being such a loving experience.
It started with me saying that Beeboo (her word for boobies) were really tired after being awake every night for 2.5 yrs and they really needed to start sleeping at night, when it was dark.
I asked her how she would feel if Beeboo slept at night when she slept and woke in the morning, when the sun came up, and then she could feed.
“Would that be ok?”
In the tiniest little voice she said “Yup”
So I knew that it was possible and now I knew I had to allow her to make the decision.
I explained that when she went to sleep Beeboo would go to sleep as well and when the sun came up she could have some.
She jumped up, excited, and said, “I can wake her up with a big good morning and get on.”
Then at night, when we talk about our day, I mentioned that Beeboo was going to go to sleep after she did and then not be available until the sun was up.
She went to sleep, woke up asking at around 11.30pm and I reminded her that they were asleep, but she could cuddle in and hold them if she wanted too.
So she did and every night since, when she wakes up, she gets up has some water, has a wee, then hopes into bed and cuddles in.
The only real show that she was struggling was a 10 minute meltdown on day 2, when i said no they were sleeping, but i think that was more because of the day we had, then no boob.
It has been 4 days and so far it has been bliss full and if anything I think it has bought us closer because she cuddles me now, and I no longer feel like pushing her away and feeling touched out from too much sucking.
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